We Are All About Character Transformation
Many people have fear, anxiety, low self esteem, a weak identity, a lack of joy, social anxiety, difficulty bonding with people, faulty beliefs about themselves and about others, habits of isolating, habits of avoiding, difficulty dealing with emotions, a lack of emotions, addiction, people pleasing, control issues, certain physical ailments etc -- Happy In The Midst Of exists to help people recover from these and other issues.
How do we do this? We do this using cutting edge brain science combined with God's love, leading, guiding and help.
All of the issues mentioned above come about at least partly, if not wholly, as a result of Trauma A and Trauma B - see a detailed description of Trauma A and Trauma B below - both of which very negatively affect a persons brain, reducing their brains' ability to deal with social and emotional situations, and also weakening their identity and personality -- Now remember, God made the brain and He knows exactly how it should process social and emotional situations, and He knows how to fix it when this processing is not working properly, or when it has gotten stuck for any number of reasons, or when the processing system was never set up properly in the first place.
Therefore, using cutting edge brain science, combined with God's love, leading, guiding and help, Happy In The Midst Of helps people to recover from the problems mentioned above through providing:
- An atmosphere of Christian love and caring
- Teaching, practice and training in a conscious contact lifestyle with God
- Teaching, practice and training in emotional and social brain processing skills
- Teaching and coaching in tasks to further ones maturity
- The practice of conscious contact prayer with God for the healing of trauma wounds
It's about Character Transformation.
A brief description of Trauma A and Trauma B
Trauma A, often referred to as neglect, is the absence of good and necessary things we all need.
In childhood, Trauma A is the absence of the following good and necessary things which all infants and children need which then go on to give them emotional and social stability:
- Love, being cherished, being delighted in, being celebrated, joy, tenderness, caring, reassurance, nurturing, food, clothing, shelter, medical care, dental care, etc.
- Teaching in emotional and social processing skills, which then allows them to be able to successfully process emotional and social situations in life
- Coaching in the Tasks needed to advance their Maturity
Not receiving these things in childhood is Trauma A and leads to:
- The identity centre in the infants’ brain does not develop properly leading to a weak, non-joyful identity
- The infant develops insecure attachment, which very negatively affects their ability to form safe and meaningful relationships, and very negatively affects their view of how they see the world, themselves, and their place in the world
- The social & emotional processing centre of the infants’ brain does not wire together properly and as a result they do not develop and function normally emotionally or socially, and they have an unstable personality
- The autonomic nervous system, which regulates many internal, hormonal and physical processes, does not set up normally in the infant, thus many of their internal, hormonal and physical regulation processes are set at non- optimal levels
As a result fear, anxiety, low self esteem, a weak identity, a lack of joy, social anxiety, difficulty bonding with people, faulty beliefs about themselves and about others, habits of isolating, habits of avoiding, difficulty dealing with emotions, emotional outbursts, anger issues, a lack of emotions, unstable personality, addiction, people pleasing, control issues, certain physical ailments etc. can develop.
Trauma B is when something bad happens to a person and the person does not know how to handle the bad experience and it overwhelms them. Due to the overwhelming nature of the experience it does not get properly processed by the person's brain and thus it becomes stuck in their brain as a traumatic memory and will cause the person problems going forwards. Some examples of potentially overwhelming bad things are physical abuse, sexual abuse, war, assault, emotional abuse, abandonment, etc.
Not all bad things which happen to a person result in trauma B – trauma B only results if the person is overwhelmed by the bad thing i.e. if the person does not have the capacity to handle i.e. fully process the bad thing, such that it then becomes stuck in their brain as a traumatic memory. If that happens, the traumatic memory contains all the unprocessed, traumatic content from the bad experience and at any point in the future in the person's life when this traumatic memory gets triggered, all the toxic, unprocessed content will come forward and will feel true for them in the present, making it very difficult for them to function in the present. This toxic, unprocessed content might include, feelings of inadequacy, unresolved emotions, loss of being able to be relational with others, confusion, faulty beliefs, unprocessed physical sensations etc. again making it very difficult for the person to function in the present.LEARN MORE AND REGISTER
How To Feel GREAT About Yourself
Have you believed Lies about yourself, Lies which are negatively affecting your life?
Many people have.
Lies such as—-
• I am not loveable
• I am not enough
• Something is wrong with me
• I am not okay
• I am worthless
Have you believed one of these Lies about yourself?—- Or something very similar?
In most cases, these Lies come from Wounds we received while we were growing up.
Someone else said it this way—-
“Your wounds brought Messages with them. Lots of Messages. Somehow they all usually land in the same place. They all had a similar theme, ‘you are worthless’, ‘you are too much….and not enough’, ‘you’re a disappointment’, ‘you are repulsive’. On and on they go. Because they were delivered with such pain, they felt true, they pierced our hearts and they seemed so true, so we accepted the Message as fact, we embraced it as the verdict on us.” this excerpt is from the book, Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman’s Soul by John & Stasi Eldredge